When And How To Break Up

It’s not divorce when you call off an engagement and it’s much safe than going on to be married pretending everything’s fine. For the reason that you don’t marry no one to change them – it’s next to impossible. You’d need to learn how to break up and still feel alright.

If you actually could pretend everything is fine and advance to tie the nuptials you’d as much be ready to pretend and not speak up for the rest of your lives. While a break up wouldn’t be easy for you and your partner it’s much better than enduring in place of enjoying your marriage.

More or less Dating and Courtship isn’t marriage it’s only a season to ascertain if you both are companionable. The issue is folks keep-going to act up like they’re married already – they play Hubby and Wife when they should be having meaningful talks and getting to know each other and finding out who they really are.

Most Couples after they’d walked the Altar and begin to live together, oftentimes act like they just woke up to some realities about their spouse. What’s true is – they’ve always behaved that way but you all were busy having sex that you hardly could notice.

Sorry for being unapologetically bare with the truth – just that someone has got to speak up and let’s find an end to this entire maze in our families. It’s only worsening our society. We’ve got to keep courtship as courtship and move on to quit it if we sincerely sense threats that

could cause disagreements that would hardly reach a compromise.

I deeply appreciate Rebecca’s wisdom and suggest we all take a cue from her as she went on to get in a Relationship with Isaac. While she saw Isaac, no doubt she Loved him even from a distance. You know that brand of attractions you feel towards someone but you don’t want no one to notice and yet you’re implicating yourself.

She softly asked the servant that drove the chariot, is he the man? I personally could sense an attraction in the question. But then she took a veil and covered herself because there are a dozen things to ascertain about who this man is than just a fancy. And you know what – she’s pretty much ready to go against her emotions with that veil on if they weren’t companionable.

As much important it is to make a relationship work we as much need to know when it’s critical to quit. When you both hardly sync in purpose, perspective, religion etc; diversity is pretty good but could be outstandingly unsafe in relationship when it’s excessive. While you both should appreciate and celebrate each other’s difference it’s however critical when it poses a threat to your compatibility.

Jane frequently had this guy hit her blue-black and she’s up till now in the relationship hoping he’d change when they finally are married. Well, folks don’t change in marriage – if you can’t get him to stop now I can put anything on the line, not in your life will he do after consummation.

If your partner’s a liar, and a cheat, and a smoker, and a drunk, irritating and significantly an opposite of you – you’ve got to sublime your emotion’s vapour and walk-away or you should just get ready to put up with that till either of you’s last breathe. Divorce ain’t an option I don’t know who’s selling us that lie.

I pretty much can tell a lot’s breezing through your mind right now and if you’ve got to take a decision then do it and not jeopardize fulfilling your highest purpose. You’ve got to confront what you need to conquer.

Don’t chicken out, confront it. If you need to learn something about Human Relations, it’s how to say “No” and still retain your friendship. I really had to say don’t chicken out because that’s what a large population of us do – break up on text messages, and social media, and over phone-lines, that’s weird!  

Well, if that’s the only place your relationship has been its fine a bit but I think we all should act as adults and fix up a date, talk things over, let your partner cry if they have to, and share a great hug before you walk away.

Finally, you should know:

1.       When a break up is to a large extent important to your life’s essence

2.       A Broken Engagement isn’t Divorce

3.       Your Life and Happiness is not and shouldn’t be tied to an individual

4.       You should be able to confront what you need to conquer – don’t break up over phone lines

5.       If you need to, get folks you both look up to involved

6.       Retain your friendship after all if you can

I’m always right here to extend a hand because I consider the irregularities of our individual circumstance. You might need peculiar ideas to get through. You always can email me using the contact form on issues that are personal.

But then, whenever you're being 

1. Neglected

2. When you're the Only one pushing the Relationship

3. When your partner doesn't  have regard for your family

4. When your ethics and values be at odds 

It's a pointer you've got to walk away! Walk Away!!!

 

*Smiles*