I pretty much understand how cruel folks could be at times and how
difficult it could be to reach a compromise in the face of a man’s ego and a
woman’s pride. This had really been a major cause of annulments.
Hardly would anyone fess up to accept their wrongs and seek to make
things right, each of the couple seem justified in their own eyes. But how
about when a spouse is subjected to a dehumanizing experience, is it really
God’s will that whosoever is ill-treated. The only way out of this life
shackled to ill-treatments seems
to be an annulment.
This was Susan’s experience with Marcel and it grew worse each day
as he unapologetically disregarded their matrimonial vows indulging in his
promiscuous escapade with his countless mistresses, and subjecting Susan to a
life of misery.
Marcel kept late nights, comes in drunk, and hardly has time for Susan.
Rough handling her and watching her cry seem to thrill him. One night he sent
his fists to her face like he was in a boxing match against Mike till she got
in coma.
I practically got puzzled by the entire scenario as I wondered what
influenced him to woo Susan up until they got married – and what had happened
to whatever influenced their relationship from the onset.
What was annoying was that Susan never fess-up to being hit by
Marcel. She went on living in misery till her family influenced her to get an
annulment. The entire process was traumatic and she hardly could get a life
afterwards.
Well, for Susan I can’t really tell if she was shackled by love or
fear but getting an annulment was practically what’s best. You see, God doesn’t
hate the divorcee he only hates divorce and what it does to you – for the
reason that there’s a part of you that’s lost and perhaps would remain that way
forever.
If you’d have to do that, scriptures hardly offer you a chance to – only
on account for promiscuity. But then, Divorce is not the unpardonable sin. And
if it’s happened to you, it’s not because you’re a bad person – you must not
have to blame yourself for it.
I only could say about half a
dozen things to Susan
- You’d have to accept God doesn’t hate you
I.
He’s forgiven you
II.
Divorce isn’t the unpardonable
2. You’d have to forgive yourself
I. If you’d made a mistake, quit
blaming yourself
II. Be happy with yourself
3. Forgive your Spouse
I. Let go of hurts and hatred
towards them in your heart
II. Be free and relaxed with your
spouse
III. Don’t have cynical outlook
I. Find and Love your true self
II. Pursue your purpose and find fulfillment
III. Be focused on your career
IV. Be complete and accomplished in
yourself as an individual
I. Divorce isn’t a chance to get a
second marriage but a chance to get Knowledge _Myles Munroe
6. Embrace the Grace, the Love,
and the Person of Jesus
I hardly talked about getting
another marriage. What you need first is to be happy with yourself and whole
again as a single so you don’t carry baggage from your past relationship into
your new marriage.
It’s certain that there’s a part of you that’s gone but you’d learn
to live without it and be happy anyways. Folks make the mistake of getting
another marriage immediately – perhaps they think it’s someone they need, but
it’s basically being with their self and becoming single again and getting more
knowledge that’s critical.
The truth is it’s not someone that you need to be happy, it’s
finding your true self and loving it – it’s pursuing your highest purpose that
gives you fulfillment and being complete and accomplished as an individual.
Just sticking to the earlier listed half a dozen secrets you’d
definitely have your life moving upward and onward. It’s your life – it
shouldn’t halt because someone isn’t there anymore. Live it on!!!
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