Becoming the MAN SHE Want You to Be

The challenge of us men in our generation is lack of father’s at our homes to model true manhood to us either because they’re away from home or in prisons. And that’s why God said, He’d restore the heart of the fathers.

It transcends beyond the man she wants you to be. It’s the man God’s created you to be. This lesson seeks to hone you into that man.

I had this man sit at the other end of my desk. He was excessively miserable as he sobbed over being married to the wrong woman. He only seeks someone who would come in agreement with him so he’d head for a divorce I sensed.

He made expressions like “not finding his missing rib, and other half, plus marrying the right/wrong woman” his basis. As he lamented over his wife being everything wrong, I cut in with a disappointing lesson with which he later was grateful for.

There exists nothing like a wrong person. Scriptures has it that after creation God saw everything he’s made and affirmed that “it is good”, and that didn’t exclude this man’s wife, or any other partner anywhere.

Every woman has the potential to be a right or wrong person based on how you relate to her. If you marry her wrongly, no doubt she’d be a wrong woman and if you marry her rightly, she’d be right too.

A woman is delicate and that’s why

God had to bring her after everything’s in place – to a man who’s rightly positioned to cultivate and affect her for the better, not worse.

A woman is a man’s baby because she was taken out from him. That’s why men naturally address women as “baby”. And at each circumstance she tends to look up to you as one. She’s designed from inception to be protected and sustained. At such, it transcends calling her baby to a responsibility of sustaining her.

Don’t disconnect yet, because if a man is sincerely resolute to sustain his wife, God will bless him. But if on the contrary God will let him stay broke.

Let’s get back to it. Regardless of how she looks in her corporate wear with a briefcase plus how hugely she earns, she still wishes to be protected and sustained. That’s why she still comes to ask from you. You should appreciate that thing in her, as she’s just being herself – while you depend on God to sustain her.

It’s so appalling how we in our time expose her to some kind of harsh conditions. And decline our place as men to her, and then she has to draws from her inner strength to subject herself to the fatigue to carry on without complaining. She hides her pain in her smiles and still loves you through her hurts.

We shouldn’t think everything’s fine because she doesn’t voice her hurts. It’s time to be the man God wants you to be to her.

Being a man is such a heavy job that if we’re assessed in our generation most men would get a demotion to become women for the reason that they’re not up for the responsibility. But we all can walk back to being who we ought to be. Men with attributes below…

Vision and Sense of Direction: She wants a man who she can follow and not be overwhelmed by life’s roughness. A man who knows where it is he’s going and has the tenacity to drive circumstances and effect change. A man who can project into the future to detect which way to lead her through… a man who can navigate through the rocky parts of life.

God saw that man in Adam before he gave him Eve.

Sustenance and Protection: She wants you to accept her for who she is – your baby, and sustain her as such. It’s built in her genes to depend on you.

Its pitiable how much we expose her to life’s roughness and let her carry the weight of the world on her shoulders and in the midst of it she’s yet gentle enough to give comfort.

Trust: When a woman love’s you she wants you to trust her to protect and cover her and not listen to what other people say. She bleeds uncontrollable inside and deeply gets heartbroken when she encounters distrust from her man. She’s weakened encountering such moments you didn’t stand up for her.

Compliments: She needs to feel appreciated and it largely happens when she hears you say sweet admiring comments to her. She’s hurt when you don’t admire her, and pay close attention to see and admire her new hairstyle, her cooking and all there is.

Listen to Her; Have Her Time: She wants you always by her; it’s about being her friend not just a lover. She wants to talk and share great laughs with you, but it seems you’re running a tight schedule that doesn’t have her in it. It’s those kind of moments Adam wasn’t there that the serpent beguiled Eve –and you know what it all comes down to affect you.

You’d learn to put your watch away while she begins her seemingly less logical, emotion filled conversations and even if you don’t enjoy it, you don’t let her know it. But it’s much preferable you learn to enjoy her gist.

Kind Gestures: An out of the box gesture means so much to her. A few calls out of the usual just to tell her how much you Love her, slipping notes up under her pillow, serving her tea in bed. Just be spontaneous and imaginative, it does make her have a great smile.

She Wants A Man: She appreciates a firm man, not just someone she can order around. She loves a symbol of authority regardless of how it seems she repels submission.  She’s not looking for a baby to be a mom to or another woman disguised as a man; she wants a man she can submit to.

When she’s fearful you’d have to display courage. Not because you’re not afraid too but you hide your fears and hold it down and keep going on to show you’re in charge. That’s courage. Trust me it would be bliss all through!