4 Major REASONS Why RELATIONSHIPS FAIL

Records showed in 2012 that divorce happened every five minutes and in 2013 the Justice Department’s annual report as reported by News24 has put South Africa on the map in terms of matrimonial woes as new figures show that divorce rates has rocketed by 28% from 39, 573 to 50, 517.

Our world has a perverted and convoluted concept of Love and Marriage that births the entire conflict in our relationships. A concept of love that’s entirely self-seeking. Where folks has been taught to know what they want in a relationship as a substitute to what they should give in it.

This only shaped relationships that consists of needy people with excessive

expectations - and that’s the foremost cause of failed relationships.

 

4 Basic Reasons Why Relationships Fail

1.      Unmet Expectations

Lately, Relationships are overwhelmed by hicks that got handled with ease in previous times. With the fleeting trend the lists of unrealistic fantasies and excessive expectations of Marriage have basically been a chief reason that’s breaking relationships as both couple gets slapped in the face by disappointments with each other.

What’s weird is the ignorance they both share about each others fantasy. And they both become gullible to separation at little quarrels as they both sulk. While the couples live together at this phase, they are just floating some kind of mechanical love as already within them they’d given-up on each other.

One man once said to me “I did not marry my wife, she’s the wrong woman” well, it’s nothing wrong with her I said, it’s simply some fantasies you’ve had that weren’t being met.

Firstly, I’d unhesitatingly criticize these self-seeking expectations that’s dashing people’s hope and crashing relationships. If there’s anything our generation should know about love, it is its altruistic sacrifice – it’s barely self-seeking.

Serving as second to the above, warm communications should be an essential relationship condiment to you. Sulking makes nothing better. Voice your expectations, talk about it and get to laugh over it.

 

2.      Deficit of Openness to Improvement

People hardly fess-up when confronted about their errors, studies had exposed that convicts never admit they’d wronged no one and they put their feet down on it. Amidst the four phases of you - the Revealed you, Hidden you, and Unrevealed you is an aspect of you that others know that you don’t  and that’s why you’d need to be open for improvements as your spouse would voice those aspects, while it would be succinctly embarrassing, embrace them and change proactively.

Pride plus a few other habits like snoring could be discomforting to your spouse and you’d hardly know about it yourself because you snore while you’re unconsciously deep in sleep.

Disagreements on such actual issues that are not known to you could easily break-up promising relationships - whatever confrontation maturely, should be approached with Love and friendliness.

 

3.      Deficit of Wholeness

Wholeness should be a criterion for getting in a relationship. Individuals who aren’t happy and fulfilled as singles get into relationships with excessive baggage that bore their spouse – to add to it are unresolved issues of hurt and abuse transferred from each others pasts.

You shouldn’t be a second half that’s too needy and dependent on someone else to be complete. It should be a union of two complete persons pursuing their highest purpose that’s got a life as individuals.

4.      Lack of Sexual Intimacy

Lack of sexual intimacy plays a huge part in failed relationships – because it’s designed to create a bond between you both. Well, that’s specific for married couples. Never let your spouse feel reluctant and ashamed asking you for sex. It gets them crumbling a downward spiral to adultery.

Finally, if you currently had a failed relationship or divorce, right-away you do not need another person – what’s crucial is that you get knowledge. And I’m positive the previous breakup and divorce would be the last.